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Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

posted 24 Feb 2013, 14:09 by Mpelembe   [ updated 24 Feb 2013, 14:10 ]

No one likes to feel like they are being lied to, especially
when their spouse is involved. The foundation of trust and
honesty is such an important part of marriage, and without it
the relationship will never succeed. This is why even the
smallest suspicions of an affair needs to be investigated. Of
course you have to be careful not to wrongly accuse your spouse,
and this is why you should approach the matter as "innocent
until proven guilty". That being said, there are some signs of a
cheating spouse you can look for without jeopardizing your

Behavior Changes

It is usually pretty easy to identify changes in your spouse's
behavior pattern since you have been together for so long. They
may appear nervous or anxious when the phone rings or when they
are using the family computer. You might also notice them paying
more attention to their appearance and clothing. These are just
some of the things that can indicate a new love interest.

Sudden Schedule Changes

If your partner used to be reliable in the times that they came
home from work but suddenly have become late there may be cause
for concern. They may also have excuses for going out to social
events or needing to travel more. While this is certainly
acceptable once in a while, a consistent pattern of these events
is unnatural. Always ask for the complete details behind a
schedule change and follow up with a call to their cell phone
just to make sure they are telling the truth.

Mood Swings

Even through you may feel most of the emotional burden when
your spouse is cheating; the fact is that the pressure of
dishonest behavior will get to them as well. Because of this,
you may notice sudden changes in their mood. Small arguments can
turn into huge conflicts, and may even be followed by
overwhelming apologies. Your spouse may even create a heated
argument just as an excuse to leave the house and visit their
lover. These types of unstable swings may be an indicator of
something else going on behind closed doors.


One of the most common responses to any marriage problem is
withdrawal. Your partner may begin to ignore you or seem distant
with their responses. They might answer all of your questions
with one-word relies, or just by nodding their head. By giving
you the cold shoulder they avoid having to discuss their day or
answer any questions related to their behavior. This is where
you have to become creative with you conversation to break
through the walls they have put up.

These are just a few of the signs of a cheating spouse. While
there are many more, your focus should be on recognizing broad
behavior changes that tell you something is different. Remember
that you can't accuse your spouse of anything until you have
adequate evidence, and this may require some digging on your
part. Just be careful not to be caught unless you are sure you
can find proof. You don't want to risk your marriage on pure

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